The Way God Intended

Song of Songs 8:6–7

Recommended Reading: Genesis 2:18–25; Matthew 19:1–9; Hebrews 13:4

This passage, perhaps as powerfully as any other in the entire Bible, defines and describes for modern readers God’s intentions when he invented and defined the institution of marriage.

Marriage as a concept lies deep within our collective psyche. Preschoolers role-play the family unit as part of their playground fun. Preteen girls dream of the day when they’ll walk down the aisle in a flowing white gown. Matchmaking businesses and Web sites thrive as people look for that elusive one perfect person to know and love for the rest of their lives. The vast majority of adults who live in Western cultures either are, have been or someday intend to be married. Such hopefulness in the face of a consistent 50 percent divorce rate! And yet, despite the well-publicized antics of the Hollywood set, marriage remains one of the key building blocks of family life and society as a whole.

And that’s just what God intended. The language in this passage is powerful as it speaks to the implications of marriage. One scholar has said that this passage “characterizes marital love as the strongest, most unyielding and invincible force in human experience.” Now that’s saying something! Despite the failure of individuals, the bar of God’s expectations for marriage is set sky-high. And note the implications of the last part of verse 7: True, lasting marital love involves deep integrity on the part of both parties. To paraphrase: “Money can’t buy me love.”

The power of marriage lies in the power of a promise, sealed with God’s stamp of approval, that one man makes to one woman. The promise to love another person “until death do you part” is as deep a commitment as one can make in this life. As one pastor put it, “The power to make and keep a promise is one of the strongest in the world, for it brings the promise maker within a millimeter of what it means to be like God, who makes and keeps his promises to his people.”

True, enduring, lifelong commitment is God’s expectation for marriage, and it has been since the Garden of Eden. That’s not to say that God expects us to be perfect as we relate to one another; we are, after all, still living under the effects of sin. But despite our failures, the goal for the respect we are to show toward the institution remains the same, “for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave” (Song of Songs 8:6).

To Take Away

  • Are you married? If you answered yes, how does your marriage stack up to God’s expectations for the institution?
  • If you’ve never been married, what is your perspective on what this passage could mean for your future?
  • If you’re not married now but have been in the past, how can this passage influence your opinions and actions?

 

Reference: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Gen.2.18-Gen.2.25,Matt.19.1-Matt.19.9,Heb.13.4

Why Christians should never Marry Non-Christians By: Dave Willis

Apart from your relationship with God, there is no moreimportant and more intimate relationship in the universe thanthe relationship of Marriage. It is a beautiful gift, designed byGod, to bring one man and one woman together in a physical,emotional and even spiritual bond. What I’m about to say might offend you, but as your Brother in Christ, I love you enough to offend you with the Truth, so heregoes…If you are a Christian and you are dating a Non-Christian, you need to break up! If you are already married,that is a completely different scenario, but if you aren’t married, I can say with Biblical certainty that God’s Will is NOT for you to commit your life to someone who is not following Him. Don’t take my word for it, listen to what God says on thesubject…

 

“Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers…How can abeliever be a partner with an unbeliever?” 2 Corinthians6:14-15

 

“The men of Judah have defiled the Lord’s beloved sanctuary by marrying women who worship foreign gods” Malachi 4:11“

 

You are not to give your daughters in marriage to their sons,nor are you to take their daughters in marriage for your sonsor for yourselves. Was it not because of marriages like thesethat Solomon king of Israel sinned?” Nehemiah 13:25-26

 

This Bible has a lot more to say on this subject and I encourageyou to study it on your own. This brings up some importantquestions that you might be asking…

 

1. But I really “love” this person. Isn’t that enough? No.

God is love and God loves you. He wants what is best for you.You might need to read just your view of love and marriage from what we see in Romantic Comedies to what we see in God’s Word. If you are willing to disobey God for somebody you want to marry then what you feel isn’t real love.

 

2. But doesn’t God want to me keep dating this person so I can lead them to Jesus? No. There is a much better chance that they will lead you to bed. I’m sure you have good intentions, but God never intended you to be a dating evangelist.

 

3. But we’re so compatible! We have so much in common? Isn’t that enough? No. If the most important relationship in your life is Jesus and the most important relationship in their life is something else, you’ll be pulling in two separate directions. That is an irreconcilable difference that trumps thefact that you really like the same movies and music.

 

4. So I should just break their heart and my own? Yes. If that’s what it takes. Too much is at stake to do anything else.You need to trust the broken pieces of your heart to God and know that He is pleased when our faith leads us to tough choices. As for your boyfriend/girlfriend, keep praying for them and believing that God will reach them. Before you jump into a new relationship, make Jesus the first and foremost relationship in your life and then trust Him to bring the right person in the right time.

 

5. What if I can’t find somebody else? Trust God. Pray and be patient. God will often ask you to wait for His Best, but He will never ask you to settle for anything less than His best!

 

6. What if I’m already married? Pray. Pray for your spouse and for yourself. The Bible is clear that if your spouse is willing to stay married, then you should stay married.

 

The bottom line is that we should all be willing to trade in our own opinions and our own feelings for God’s Truth.Following Him means that we are willing to trust Him evenwhen our feelings and emotions are telling us to do somethingelse. Know that God has good things in store for you.

 

“For I know the plans I have for you declares the LORD; plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11